June 11, 2025

Finding Your Way Without a Map: Rita Lussier and the Journey Back to You

What happens when the house suddenly goes quiet? When the roles that defined you for decades shift beneath your feet? In this heartfelt conversation with award-winning journalist and author Rita Lussier, we explore the profound journey of rediscovering yourself after the nest empties.

Rita shares the raw emotional reality of returning home after dropping her youngest at college—that moment when muscle memory expects noise and activity but encounters silence instead. With remarkable honesty, she dismantles the harmful myth that struggling with this transition somehow indicates you've placed too much emphasis on family. Instead, she validates what many experience but few discuss: the disorientation that comes when a 24/7 job that's occupied decades of your life suddenly transforms.

The conversation weaves through multiple life transitions—from redefining partnerships after years of child-focused activity to the complex emotional terrain of caring for aging parents. Rita's poignant description of role reversal with her mother, particularly during her battle with Alzheimer's, captures the bittersweet nature of becoming the caregiver to those who once cared for you.

Most powerfully, Rita offers wisdom for anyone facing uncertainty: "Be patient with yourself. You may not know all the answers right now—in fact, you may not know any answers—but you will. You just have to give yourself some time." Through personal stories, including how writing became both her therapy and eventually her path forward, she illustrates how embracing the unknown can lead to unexpected gifts.

Whether you're approaching an empty nest, in the midst of that transition, or navigating any significant life change, Rita's insights remind us that while beginnings and endings are inevitable, how we move through them shapes who we become. Her book "And Now Back to Me: Stories from an Empty Nest" continues this conversation, meeting readers wherever they are in life's journey.

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Chapters

00:00 - Welcome to Rita Lussier

12:44 - The Emptiness Transition

23:41 - Reintroducing Ourselves

36:40 - From Raising Kids to Caring for Parents

49:30 - Finding Your True Passions

59:34 - Gratitude and Perspective

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