Beyond Shame: The Freedom of Hearing “It’s Not Your Fault with RJ Formanek on Living with FASD part 2
Send us a text We dig into life with FASD beyond labels: how shame warps identity, how routines protect mornings, and why late-blooming brains change everything. RJ shares the red shoes origin, practical language for kids, and a hopeful path from rage to self‑acceptance. • removing shame and naming “it’s not your fault” • morning reboot, windows, slow processing • routines for sensory load and homeschooling • caretaking as kids and delayed meltdowns • diagnosis as a doorway to forgiveness • ...
We dig into life with FASD beyond labels: how shame warps identity, how routines protect mornings, and why late-blooming brains change everything. RJ shares the red shoes origin, practical language for kids, and a hopeful path from rage to self‑acceptance.
• removing shame and naming “it’s not your fault”
• morning reboot, windows, slow processing
• routines for sensory load and homeschooling
• caretaking as kids and delayed meltdowns
• diagnosis as a doorway to forgiveness
• age‑appropriate truth telling without trauma dumping
• dismaturity and brain domains explained
• comorbidities and “it’s complicated” framing
• experiential learning and practical supports
• neuroplasticity, myelination, and late blooming
• authentic voice: writing like you talk
• mentoring over short‑term coaching
• starting advocacy locally and year‑round
• debunking cultural myths and stigma
• community, hope, and the power of red shoes
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@Real Talk with Tina and Ann
00:00 - Picking Up Part Two
00:33 - Resilience, Positivity, And Morning Reset
03:59 - Routines, Homeschooling, And Sensory Load
07:17 - Caretaking Roles And Hidden Rage
10:41 - Diagnosis, Self‑Forgiveness, And Trust
13:20 - Telling Kids About FASD, Not Trauma
17:02 - Dismaturity And Brain Domains Explained
21:14 - Comorbidities And “It’s Complicated”
24:24 - Learning Styles And Doing It Wrong First
26:56 - Self‑Acceptance And Hard‑Won Wins
29:10 - Turning Pain Into Purpose
31:01 - Red Shoes Rock: Shame To Fire
34:16 - Movement, Books, And Global Reach
37:02 - Gifts, Neuroplasticity, And Late Blooming
41:28 - Finding Voice: From Notes To Mic
44:12 - Speaking, Mentoring, And Real Support
47:24 - Start Advocating Where You Stand
50:15 - Stigma, Indigenous Myths, And Reality
54:12 - Epigenetics And Intergenerational Effects
57:15 - Hope, Community, And A Clear Call